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A “cyborg” robot with no empathy, no ability to feel anything but anger, jealousy, and sorry for himself. And sure there are female narcissists, I’ve met one.

Literally only ONE in my lifetime. Narcissists are usually male. Psychology Today Magazine says Narcissists only make up 1% of the population, but others might argue it could be 6- 1. The purpose of this entry is to educate you on what a true Narcissist/Sociopath is and to learn about the effects of Narcissistic Victims Syndrome (the PTSD of Narcissist Victims). Definition: DSM- V is the diagnostic bible that shrinks and doctors use to slap a label on someone. It’s important to know that one can have TRAITS of narcissism (or any other personality disorder) but not be a full blown Narcissist. NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is marked by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), the need for admiration, and lack of empathy.

The diagnosis requires five of the following: Exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. Believes he/she is special and unique. Requires excessive admiration. Has a sense of entitlement (i. Camp Victory, Afghanistan Full Movie Part 1 here. Is interpersonally exploitative i. Is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings or needs of others. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her. Has arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Again, its important to note someone may have traits of the above, but if they don’t have at least five of them, they’re not a diagnosable Narcissist.

However! If someone has three or four of the above traits, they may not be a diagnosable narcissist but I sure wouldn’t want to live with them, marry them, or be their business partner! Another tool, perhaps one of the most authoritative tools for diagnosing psychopathy, is the Psychopathy Checklist Revised, developed by Dr. Robert Hare. It includes 2. Hare Psychopathy Checklist Revised. Gibness/superficial charm. Grandiose sense of self worth.

Need for stimulation/proneness to bordom. Pathological Lying.

Conning/manipulative. Lack of remorse of guilt. Shallow affect (emotions)Callous/lack of empathy. Parasitic lifestyle. Poor behavior controls Promiscuous sexual behavior Early behavioral problems. Lack of realistic long term goals. Impulsivity Irresponsibility Failure to accept responsibility of actions.

Many short term marital relationships Juvenile Delinquency Revocation of conditional release Criminal versatility This brings us to Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD). AKA Psychopaths.  DSM- V says APD is marked by a pervasive pattern or disregard for or violation of others’ rights and must include at least three of the following: Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors, as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest. Deceitfulness as indicated by lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure. Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead. Irritability and aggressiveness as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults. Reckless disregard for the safety of self or others.

Consistent irresponsibility , as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work, behavior or honor financial obligations. Lack of remorse as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another. SO, similarities of a Narcissist and Antisocial Personality Disorder are: feeling justified in hurting others, using others for personal gain, spontaneous or impulsive behaviors, and lack of remorse or empathy. Narcissists are not always violent. Antisocials usually are. Narcissists might not feed your dog if you piss them off. Antisocials will just torture or kill your dog. Both could have a criminal history, for example stealing, however narcissists might be better at charming you so well that you give them your account numbers willingly. Antisocials will just take it by force.

Narcissists want to perpetuate the facade that they are powerful, likable, smart, etc. Antisocials don’t care if you like them or not. Ok back to NPD. How to recognize a Narcissist? All the studying in the world won’t prepare you to deal with a Narcissist. You must experience it for yourself to really even begin to understand the harm they are capable of. What stands out to me in my personal and professional experience are the following: Bizzare affect.

Expressionless face, they don’t laugh at jokes (unless its one they’ve told), inappropriate emotional responses to stimuli. They either have a smug smile or completely blank face. Lacks empathy. This is so difficult to recognize in the beginning because at first their objective is to lure your in and they do that with charm and attention.

This is the love bombing stage. Once they’ve got you in their web, you’re overlooked like last seasons hand bags. They have absolutely no regard for boundaries. They push all the boundaries. They will move in fast and get you to engage in physical intimacy ASAP. They call, you don’t answer.

A ‘normal’ person might leave a message and wait for you to call back. After all a ‘normal’ person doesn’t want to appear desperate or crazy. A Narcissist could care less if they appear desperate or crazy. They will call you 2. And then you think, “wow this person must really like me, all these texts and phone calls, and they want to spend all their time with me!”.

But nope, they are love bombing you. This is red flag #1. Headline knowledge.

You’re trying to have a conversation and they aren’t able to engage with you. They’re spouting off random facts that have absolutely nothing to do with the conversation you are trying to have.

I had an awful day at work today.” Narcissist “that building was built in 1. Odd responses in text messages. Texting is especially difficult for a NPD because remember they don’t know what an appropriate feeling or emotion should be in real life, let alone in a text message. NPD: “you’re hot babe”.

Speaks about how stupid others are or brags about getting over on people. NPD: “Ok for sure I’ll send the check in the mail right away” (hangs up phone). What a stupid idiot, he deserves to not get paid for being so gullible and dumb”. Cruel and/or rude to servers, waitstaff, people they feel are “beneath” them. History of criminal charges and/or convictions. Usually they will rat themselves out. It was a bar fight and I got charged with assault with a deadly weapon, but it was self defense”. My ex got in my face and she got pushed and I was charged with domestic assault, but she hit me first”.

The company went under and I got charged with fraud, but it wasn’t my fault”. History of cheating.

Like in every relationship. Remorse? NO. Trust fund babies, living off of others, conning others for money. The parasitic lifestyle. Steady work history? LOL their resume has more gaps than a meth addict’s teeth.

Uses Triangulation. This is a purposeful form of “splitting” in which the narcissist plays one person against another. He’s assassinating the character of each person to the other.